Coping with singleness

May 02, 2018

Being single can be seen as a curse or a blessing, depending which way you look at it. Like everything else, there are pros and cons to singleness. The benefits you get to enjoy are numerous and if you have the right attitude – a positive mindset, your head lifted up and an open heart – you will go through this season without much difficulty. After all, you know very well that you are not the only single in Ireland.

Having said that, how do you get through this phase where you find yourself single? Whatever the reasons may be: after a breakup, divorce, starting over or just because you feel you have not yet found a suitable partner, finding yourself facing the world on your own does not have to overwhelm you. Here are some tips to get through this phase of your life shining and thriving:

Use every opportunity to love yourself

In your previous relationship, you might find that you gave a lot. In terms of your personal time, the decisions you made or did not make because of your partner at the time and other things (money, gifts, etc.), bottom line is that you fulfilled the role of the giver. While you might have also received, this does not diminish the fact that you invested a part of yourself for someone else’s needs and happiness. With your current new role as a single person, your heart will appreciate that you be kind to yourself. Treat yourself to a weekend away to the charming countryside, get a new haircut, invest in that motorbike or pair of boots you had your eyes on – spoil yourself during this time.

Make the most of your time to grow

Being in a relationship can sometimes strip us of our identity, now is therefore the time to find yourself once again and embark on a journey of self-discovery. Along the way, you could discover things about you that you thought you could never do, you could very well surprise yourself at your potential. Try new things, set out to reach that goal, go back to studying further, whatever it is, use that time to grow. Whether it is to hone on your natural abilities, develop your skills or learn something new, make the most of the opportunity you have – being single and not having to consider someone else before you start these tango classes or go touring across South America.

Increase your chances of meeting ‘The One’

At the same time, being single means you get to re-invent yourself. If you came out of a bad breakup or bitter divorce, you know that you deserve better and that you get another chance to have a more fulfilling relationship. Once you find yourself ready to date again, put yourself out there. Go to pubs, restaurants, say yes to most of the invitations that come your way through friends, family and even from your workplace. You never know where this could lead – your partner might be just around the corner or in the next social gathering you attend. Increase your chances by meeting someone with whom you want to do life with. You could try joining a group based on your hobby or interest, create a profile on an Irish online dating site, as long as you keep moving forward one step at a time, with a large smile on your face each time.